Thank you in particular to the men who come and attend our meetings because they add something very interesting to the group.WTW – GENDER IMAGE
“Dirty Zac” article in Interview magazine
Women were always accessories
Why is it that male underwear models even stand in “a feminine way”? Wait is that actually a “feminine way” or is it just the “way someone would stand if they are naked.
Naomi Wolfe – Effect of porn on men
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Continuing our conversation about pornography….
If you find that someone you’re in a relationship with is using or abusing pornography:
1.    Set boundaries: You want to work with them, and you need to decide what you can do to help while staying emotionally safe. You decide what you want that relationship to be. Once you set boundaries a lot of times it helps you move in a positive direction toward trust and toward forgiveness. For him too, it helps him to understand how to become trustworthy.
2.    Any addiction is selfish, and a person turns inward. Being able to confess and be vulnerable enough to talk to you about it is really shameful and scary. Think of him as a real person, and not as an addict. If he wants you to be part of his problem, then he has to give complete disclosure. (QUOTE FROM MARK BUTLER)
3.    Making some particular promises to each other. Small commitments that you each can fulfill day by day, and in small increments, you can gain and regain trust and learn to keep commitments and even more serious promises.
4.    12 step recovery programs really work! Group therapy is really good and helps the addicts feel safe and not judged, which helps them gain motivation. They have support groups for women and children related to porn users. THERE IS ONE AT BYU AND ANOTHER ONE AT THANKSGIVING POINT.
TRUST – WHAT IS IT
Social Scientists: Trust includes honesty and true benevolence
When you want to be trusted, you want to generally be honest and kind toward others…. You both feel that the other person will generally be honest and kind
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