It is hard to balance because you have so many relationships going on at once

I have a hard time because I keep myself so busy… that when I start having someone in my life I don’t know how to incorporate someone into my life without forgoing some things that are really important to me.

How do you find that balance?

Learn it from life experience: You can abandon things to hang with that person, or you can make an active choice to figure out who you are and what you need, and then only giving up those things that are actually going to hinder a relationship.

You cannot let yourself become weaker by giving up things… don’t get into a parasitic relationship

The problem with a divorce is you have to redefine yourself, you have to see which part of you is you and which part is something that the other person influenced and shaped.

What do you do to be yourself, no matter what?

Just taking time to be yourself, and do nothing. Just being in touch with yourself.

Remembering the people you can always rely on for your strength, like close familky and friends.

Doing things that make you uncomfortable… challenging yourself.

Independence vs. Interdependence

Independent strengths can rub off and become part of other people

Community of individual strengths, encouraging others to be who they are…

Avoiding comparison will help us come to terms with the fact that there is someone else that does something better than us.

Systems-thinkers are people who understand the problem, and be willing to find others who we need in different ways.

“I lift the and the lift me, and together we’ll ascend”

Can’t grow without giving and receiving

Independent women don’t normally reach out and ask for help, and aren’t humble enough to ask for what they need. How is being weak and knowing your necessities important in being strong?

Marxist feminism – individuals WITHIN a community of women

How have you found yourself, and what do you do to be who you are?

Sticking with something long enough to make It part of who you are and if you love it and how you love it.

You need to find out what you love to create. I need to be okay with being okay with myself and that I’m just okay.

Starting a blog. Putting yourself out there – brings things into your life.

Being okay with who you are and putting it out there for people to see, if you think they will think you’re weird, they’re not the people you want in your life.

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Self-esteem

Dating

Sex